The Minhag of making a הילולא on the Yahrzeit of a צדיק

 

לז"נ אבי מורי ר'  צבי יודא פרידמן זללה"ה    יום השנה ל' כסליו א' דר"ח טבת             In תלמוד בבלי the word הילולא refers to a wedding celebration. Chasidim & some ספרדים observe the Yahrzeit of a צדיק by making a סעודה and call it a הילולא They claim the Minhag of making a הילולא on  the Yahrzeit of a צדיק is found in the  'זהר רצ"ו ב re the Yahrzeit of  רשב"י Actually it is not true.  The זהר is not discussing  the Yahrzeit of  רשב"י  but the actual day of his פטירה The זהר describes the פטירה of רשב"י and says  when רשב"י came up to  שמים they made a הילולא for him. The first מקור for making a הילולא on a Yahrzeit of a צדיק is in the ספר חמדת ימים. This Sefer is a controversial Sefer. Some claim the author was a holy man (unknown) The יעב"ץ & others claim the author was נתן העזתי ימ"ש  Nathan from Gaza משיח שקר של שבתי צבי       יש שסוברים שהספר נכתב על ידי קדוש רק שיד זרים שלטו בו, ולכן יש שטוענים כי אין לסמוך עליו בדברים שלא נמצאו בספרים אחרים של האריז"ל ר'יצחק אייזיק יהודה יחיאל מיכל ספרין מקאמרנא   קיבל את שיטת היעב"ץ בדבר זהות מחבר הספר וכותב    על מחבר הספר מילים חמורות ביותר, .  שבחי הבעל שם טוב מובא סיפור    קנה את הספר   מבלי דעת מי מחברו,והבעל שם טוב העיר לו כי ספר פסול על שולחנובעל התולדות  ואז נטלו בסמרטוט וזרקו על הרצפה. רבי יהודה פתיא בספרו מנחת יהודה ורוחות מספרות כותב אודות מחזה שראה בחלום אודות בעל החמדת ימים, שלפי החלום כוונתו הייתה להכשיל את כלל ישראל בהאמנה בנביא השקר שבתי צבי.

The Yahrzeit Riddle ? Can You answer ???

The two brothers Reuvain & Shimon, both 

live in the same city.

They have Yahrzeit for their father Yakov, yet Reuvain has Yahrzeit a day before his brother Shimon.

For Answer Click Here 

the 14th day in Iyar

R.( Nehorai, Meisha,) Meir

Many, unknowingly claim  the 14th of Iyar to 

be the Yoma D'Hilulah (Yahrzeit) of the Tanna R. Meir.

The truth is there is no Mokor anywhere for the day of

his Petira.

The only mention of R.Meir's Petira is in Yerushalmi

(Kelaim Perek 9 Hl.3)

"R. Meir was niftar in Asia* (Chutz Laaretz)  He asked 

that his body be placed on the sea being E.Y. is 

surrounded by 7 seas". (similar to being buried

in Eretz Yisroel)

According to the  Yerushalmi it is not even clear if his 

body ever ended up  buried in E.Y.

The first one to mention that R.Meir is buried in

Eretz Yisroel (Teveria) is the Sefer Gelilos Ha'aretz.

He also writes that R. Meir Ba'al Haness  is buried in

Gush Chalav and he doesn't know who he was.

The Sdei Chemedi** writes he asked the Rabonim 

of Teveria,"Where does it come from this new

celebration on the 14th Iyar having a Hilulah

for R.Meir. Even the old celebrations (Lag Baomer)

the Ashkenazi Rabonim (Chasam Sofer,Shoel Umeishiv)

are upset with  and now we are adding a new one."

The Rabonim answered that the 14th of Iyar was the 

day they inaugurated the Bais Medrash on the Kever.

and  kept the date to keep on celebrating every year.

(but not because of Yahrzeit)

The Ben Ish Chai and R.Chaim Palagi zt"l, both

write to light a candle for R.Meir on the 1st of Teves.

*name of a country not continent 

** Mareches Eretz Yisroel

Did You Know ? (68)

According  to both Reb Moishe  Feinstien & R.Y.S. Elyashuv zt"l :

If someone Davens in a Chasidishe Shul where Tachanun is not said on a Yahrzeit of a Tzadik. If he hasn't managed to convince them that it is against the Halacha, then he should say Tachanun on his own.There is no problem of לא תתגודדו or  יוהרא  (haughtiness)

la"n ZVI YEHUDAH BEN MOISHE- NIFTAR LAMED KISLEV ALEF D'ROSH CHODESH TEVES

A few years ago the two brothers, Menachem and Mordechai lost their mother Miriam. They both live presently in the same city and both daven and learn in the same shul. Their Rov paskend that Menachem has Yahrzeit (after the same mother) one day before Mordechai 


The year Miriam died , had two days Rosh Chodesh. She died on the first day Rosh Chodesh Teves (30 Kislev) The following year ( first yahrzeit) It was only one day Rosh Chodesh (there is no 30th kislev) In this case there is a machlokes haposkim* which day to keep the yahrzeit

 HALACHA V'LO LEMA'ASEH 
 The Mogen Avraham (#568) holds you keep the yahrzeit on the 29th of kislev which corresponds with the last day of the month, and since you started the first yahrzeit on the 29th, you continue for the rest of your life on the 29th of kislev. The Shaarei Teshuva ,Bigdei yesha and Aruch Hashulchan, hold you always keep the Yahrzeit on Rosh Chodesh. The first year after Miriam’s death ,Menachem davened in BHM”D Chofetz Chaim. He asked his Rov when to keep the yarzeit . His rov said, The mishna Veruro who is considered the posek achron, writes (568 sk 42) that the minhag is like the Mogen Avraham. Therefore being this year there is only one day Rosh Chodesh, he has to keep the yahrzeit on the 29th of Kislev. He must also continue to do so all the years, the Magen Avraham writes the first yahrzeit establishes all the coming yahrzeits. Mordechai davened in Tiferes Yerushalayim and asked his Rov when to keep the Yahrzeit. His Rov answered that R. Moishe was the poisek hador in America. In Igros Moshe (Y.D. 3-159) he disagrees with the Magen Avraham and paskens like the Aruch Hashulchan etc. therefore he should keep the Yahrzeit on Rosh Chodesh Teves. By the time the second yahrzeit came around Mordechai and Menachem ended up davening in the same shul and asked the sheilo from their new rov. The rov paskened, Menachem started his first yahrzeit on the 29th of kislev He must continue the 29th. Mordechai started the first yahrzeit on Rosh Chodesh , he must continue on Rosh Chodesh. (no one disagrees with the magen avraham, that the first yahrzeit establishes the date forever.) * There are two more shitos 1) Taz 2) Elef Lamateh