No Mussar in Shul

       No Mussar in Shul

If someone tries to give you Mussar in Shul, you can tell him

that according to the Arizal* it is not proper to do so in a Shul**.

* see Magen Avraham O.Ch. 151:3

** even not during Davening

More Zohar

Reb Chaim Vital said that his Rebbie- the Arizal told him that he is  a Gilgul of R. Vidal the Magid Mishna . The names are same ( Vida in  Spanish is Life - Chaim -Vital).

The Arizal said one of the reasons he had to come back  was to do a Tikun for his previous life (as the Magid Mishna)  of not believing enough in the חכמת הזהר and concentrating 

instead on חכמת העיון.  

Reb Chaim Vital said on himself that is the reason he doesn't  concentrate in חכמת העיון

Al Pi Arizal

The Bach & Taz * are Meikil (lenient) not to say Tachanun at Mincha after a Bris. because  Reb Natrunai Gaon holds Tachanun is a רשות 


The Arizal holds Tachanun is a חובה . It would seem, that those
who follow the Arizal should be the ones to be Machmir with saying Tachanun .

Bechiras Libo-Intresting Teshuva From The Chasam Sofer Zatzal

It is common for wedding invitations to have one of the following words printed on the invitation, עב"ל or עב"ג . Im Bechiras Libo - Ploni is marrying Plonis, the choice of his heart. Or Im Bas Gilo - Ploni is marrying Plonis, his Basherte. 

 The Chasam Sofer (Shu”t O. Ch. 55) writes, the reason we don’t say      שהחיינו when getting married, is because we make the Bracha only when buying a new fruit or כלי which it is totally dependent on the Ratzon (will) of הקב"ה.

 Hashem had in mind you should buy this fruit, and you have no Bechira to change it for another one. Whereas a Shidduch if one decides not to marry his Basherte, Hashem will not interfere with his Bechira and will not force him to get married. Where the will of humans are involved in the acquisition, no שהחיינו is recited. 

 The Chasam Sofer  is not concerned with the Chazal that says “40 days before – Bas Ploni Liploni.” , 

a) Ein li eisak benistores The Ch. Sofer . doesn't get involved with things happening in Heaven.

b) The Ari Zal has a completely different Pshat in this Chazal. According to the Chasam Sofer printing Bechiras Libo would be appropriate. Marrying a woman is one of the few things in life where a person has Bechira ,if to get married.