Mocking the deceased

 

.בהעלתך את הנרות   Having visited today the ציון of the Zaidah the חתם סופר זצ"ל, I noticed people light candles there. I was wondering if this would not be considered לועג לרש. The Chasam Sofer שו"ת ח"ו: כ"ז writes he is unaware of the so-called מצוה רבה (sarcastic) to light a נר נשמה at home or even at the קבר. The Ch. Sofer holds that the concept of a  נר נשמה is only when it is used to light up a Shul or a Bais Midrash.