הכל בידי שמים חוץ

 

הכל בידי שמים חוץ מיראת שמים a) Why don't we ever Daven to Hashem  that the Neshamah should have an Aliyah? b) Why would someone who has been dead for 25 years still need every year a כפרה? What עבירות could dead people have done? A person who does a good deed in this world and his descendants  follow in his ways then his Neshama benefits in the world to come every time they follow his deeds. (עליית נשמה) The same will hold true on the opposite. If a person does a  bad deed and his descendants follow in his ways then it has a  negative effect on his Neshama every time they follow his bad deeds. This positive.effect (עליית נשמה) or negative effect (ירידת נשמה)  is not in the hands of Hashem It is entirely in the hands of the descendants. It is dependent on their behavior.  Hence, there is no point to Daven for עליית נשמה. When wishing the בעל היאהרצייט "the נשמה זאל האבן אן עליה" we are telling him to keep on doing מעשים טובים & as a result the נשמה will automatically have an עליה.  If the descendants, even many years later, followed the bad deeds of the נפטר then the נפטר would need a כפרה. Therefore the children bring a candle to light up the Shul and promise money for צדקה so the parent should have כפרה.