Who loves you the most?

 Parshas ויגש

Sotah 49a
דאמרי אינשי
"רחמי דאבא אבני, רחמי דבני אבני דהוו ליה"
'The love of a father, is for his children.
The love of his children are for their children."
(more love to your children than to your parents)

We find in this weeks Parsha . Yehudah was pleading
to Yosef to allow Binyomin to return to his father
otherwise his father (Yakov) will die. Why  not plead
about the suffering  of Binyomin's ten sons ?

The Kotzker Rebbe answers "From here we see
parents are in more pain when their children are
suffering than the pain children have when their parents
are suffering". 

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The Zohar( Parshas ויחי) writes," Yaakov bentched his
grandchildren before bentching his own children because
one loves his grandchildren more  than his children."

תא חזי, ברכתא דבריך לבני יוסף, אמאי אקדים לון ברכאן עד לא יברך לבנוי, אלא מכאן דחביבותא דבני
בנוי חביב עליה דבר נש יתיר מבנוי, ובגין כך אקדים חביבותא דבני בנוי קודם לבנוי לברכא לון בקדמיתא